3 in the bed and the little one said...

Does fantasy live up to the lads high expectations, or is 3 in the bed a recipe for relationship suicide??

Oh we know boys, we know... The ultimate fantasy of getting into bed with your girlfriend who wants to bring her girlfriend too! You've been thinking "what if?" your whole life and now you've got the opportunity to do it for real. You're actually going to "do the do" - with two girls at once, mind blowing excitement and cringeworthy stories to tell, it will be amazing (you hope).

When it gets down and dirty does the ultimate fantasy threesome really work in reality? Well the short answer is - hell yes it can! But to air on the side of caution, keep a few things in mind to avoid emotional fallout on the scale of Chernobyl!

Agreed or something else?

You've had this idea in your head for so long, its like you've already done the deed. Its been plaguing your mind like an infestation ever since you discovered online porn in the 8th grade. Your favourite by far the devious delight of two beautiful women in bed, pandering to your every desire. Your other half knows it too, she's heard the stories, listened to your fantasies, participated in the dirty talk, glared at your suggestions of asking her best friend, her distant friend, her work colleague, her sister!!! She gets it, you really really really want to have a threesome! She's keen now she tells you, she's ready and its decided you can book an escort for the encounter.

I've personally been in the situation on both sides of the table, where the fun stuff during the threesome has caused unwanted jealousy. Myself the first time experiencing with a long term partner; and much to my surprise to my partner also experienced a jealous streak months later after a separate encounter with a different companion!!

Different partners and choices of third person, can stir different emotions for any of the participants. I'd never expected that my enjoying myself with another woman so much would cause jealousy for my partner - and was I disappointed that it caused huge problems afterwards? Well problems is an understatement!!

Personally, I've since enjoyed an extremely varied, open and experimental sex life for a long time. I experienced all manner of situations with a few select long term partners and many invited extra participants, all before I ever worked in the escort industry.

Simple advice to avoid WWIII (from my experience)

If your intent on moving forward and experimenting with a partner, try keep the following points in mind and you'll be off to a good start in minimising emotional fallout!

• Be as open and honest with each other about your expectations as you possibly can, both before, during and after the encounter.

• Be inclusive always of both of yourselves as a couple, and the third person.

• Don't be afraid to be with each other during the threesome, you don't just have to share the third person, and its not weird for them to watch you two with each other either.

• Discuss your limits together alone prior to the meeting, and then discuss them with the third person too and find out if there is anything they're not into before it gets hot and heavy.

• If you feel uncomfortable going further at any point during the encounter, tell your partner that you want to stop and both stop!

• If you're feeling jealous of how much fun your partner is having with the other person during the experience, remember - its just sex, its not love. You're having a bit of fun for a short time, and it doesn't have to happen again.

• Discuss safe sex; and be mindful if using toys on each other, that they need to be cleaned/wrapped/and cleaned again before being swapped over too.

• Try not to judge each other for things that were done in the heat of the moment.

• Be careful who you choose as your third person, an escort is a perfect choice to be able to enjoy; and then forget about if necessary.

• Don't overcomplicate your life with complicated people, best friends may not be the best choice... think about it!

If you have fun and enjoy doing it together - do it again! Never regret anything that makes you smile, you might just be experimenting with a new lifestyle choice; and if you're not, that is ok too!

Trust, honesty, openness and talking about your feelings together, will make having an experimental sex life much easier. And there is a whole heap of fun to be had, with all kinds of people. Enjoy your experience, and if you don't have a partner and want to explore the fantasy - book with two escorts!

Happy experimenting :)

Jaime x