Return of the Concubine?

Now this may be a little controversial, when am I not? After a decade of debauchery of all kinds in this industry one very common dilemma is often disclosed to me by clients:

"I love my partner, we have a fantastic relationship and do not have any intention of separating; but they no longer want to have sex."

These clients often expand into a multitude of reasons as to why their sexual needs are no longer being catered to, and more often than not, the decision to seek my services have come after frank discussion and full permission or agreed terms from the other partner, for the sexual intimacy to be sought elsewhere.

At times the significant other has been the one to make the arrangements, discussing openly and honestly the situation and expectations for the relationship and nature of the meetings. Whilst some people may find this a bitter pill to swallow, and would be appalled at the very thought, I have to commend the level of openness and maturity in relationships such as these, they consider all outcomes level-headedly and approach the situation with honest intent to find mutual ground on which to continue what otherwise is a perfect union.

In our modern world of on hand conveniences, fast paced living and always striving to strike some sort of work-life balance while navigating relationships, career progression, home affairs, children's needs and never-ending financial commitments we've developed strategic solutions.

The modern and highly accepted solution to a whole host of tasks, has been an increasing dependence on outsourcing the workload to appropriately skilled contractors.

And why not utilise all available avenues? Take the pressure off the overwhelmingly common expectation that we can simply 'do it all'. If you don't wish to do the gardening a gardener is hired, or cleaner, nanny, nurse, cook or driver. The list of services available to outsource is ever growing, and we utilise these services constantly with satisfaction. In many of these areas, the level of trust and integrity required for those recruited into these roles, are just as highly critical as far as care, responsibility and confidentiality are concerned; and if we can find appropriately skilled and trustworthy people to take care of our households, young children, and elderly alike - then I absolutely believe appropriately selected escorts can be utilised, to provide to the needs of our partners for sexual companionship, as often as necessary.

After a decade of experience in the sex service industry, I often find myself pondering the question: Just when and why did it become taboo to seek the service of Sex workers? Being the oldest "Profession" there has always been a "need", why do we deny this?

I often wonder how the outsourcing of marital sex to Concubines as practiced by Royals throughout the world, and largely socially accepted for for hundreds of years, ever fell out of favour? It seems an almost absurd coincidence, considering that since not being so widely practiced, the rate of separation and divorce amongst couples has been steadily increasing, through all levels of society. And disappointingly, drastically increasing far more so later in life, when companionship is ever more crucial to both men and women alike.

Could the solution be as simple as ensuring that the sexual needs of your significant other, are met by a chosen "contractor" such as an Escort?

It would be foolish to assume that an arrangement such as this could be the 'one size fits all' approach, or long term solution for all couples facing the prospect of life together without sexual intimacy. But for many, it is exactly the no strings attached way forward, to mutually respectful fulfilment of sexual needs of their lifelong companion. A practical common-sense solution, that allows for sexual fulfilment, without fear of third party interference or heart-breaking affairs, making waves in their day-to-day lives or ongoing family relationships.

Sexual intimacy is for many people, more than just a "want" in their relationship. It is a "need".

For lots of people this need, if not accommodated, has a grave impact on happiness and overall wellbeing. To deny this need to your significant other, and hope that the long term outcome on the relationship as a whole will not suffer. It is not just foolish, I believe this is a one way street to long-term catastrophe. Not addressing the matter at all can lead to resentment, feeling used and un-loved and ultimately bitter endings, in what otherwise could have been long and happy lives together.

Arrangements of this nature, can only work on a strongly established basis of trust and mutual understanding, and I highly encourage anyone considering this as a viable long term option, to ensure both parties are in agreeance. Both counterparts should be equally and thoroughly involved in the selection of the proposed provider, anything that is identified as a potential issue should be thoroughly worked through together prior to engaging. Prior discussion should involve any restrictions or rules between the couple, and clearly communicated intentions regarding:

• Frequency & Budget

• Location of meetings & Sexual boundaries

• Partners ongoing involvement and level of "need to know"

• Rules for disclosure of information or what may be discussed with the provider

  
  

If you can have a discussion of this nature, and come out with a harmonious set of boundaries, I have no doubt you'll confidently secure a suitable arrangement with a fabulous Concubine.

If you're considering progressing with outsourcing the sexual fulfilment of your partner to a skilled contractor, I for one can attest to the fact that you are not alone, and it is not a strange new concept. In fact, of all the arrangements of this kind I have had involvement in, the couples have ultimately been better communicators together, and have happily continued their loving union in harmony.

You may find that a little excitement brings some new found vitality to your relationship, or you may simply be happy to know that your partner is happy, and the chosen provider is discreet, reliable, honest and trustworthy. Either way, it is certainly a discussion worth having.

If you or your significant other, no longer wish to engage in the sexual component of your relationship. If Sex has become a chore, or something scheduled into the calendar, or perhaps you'd just prefer someone else did it, it may just be time to consider outsourcing the job to a professional.

Jaime, your professional Concubine x